When you said .....(enter what was said)......what did you mean?
These are the words that strike terror into a man.
They are only ever uttered late at night, after all the relaxing is done, the TV watched, the chores if any completed. The process is simple. The mans head hits the pillow, and he starts to relax completely before succumbing to sleep, then his whole being is penetrated by those jarring words:
'When you said (whatever was said and long forgotten and had little deep thought behind it), what did you mean?'
It is never enough to say 'We can discuss it in the morning', because then she will say 'No, I want to know NOW!'.
It is no good to deny remembering saying it, because then there will be annoyance expressed at why you could have forgotten saying something that was so critical to the woman.
The guy in the situation here is destined to lose. You cannot win when everything will be turned into a negative.
I will give a fictitious example below:

When you said we won a million bucks on the lottery, what did you mean?
I meant that I just checked the ticket and we won a million bucks.
You just checked the ticket?
Yes, I just checked Saturdays ticket today, and it is a winner.
Why did you leave it until today to check?
I just forgot to check it sooner, but it doesn't matter - we won a million bucks.
Yes, but what I am trying to find out is why you never checked that ticket until today, Thursday - do you realise what you just put me through?
Well, I didn't leave until today to punish you, I just forgot, that is all.
You see, that's the problem with you, you just forget. You just forget. What do you think would happen if I forgot all the things you forget - where would we be then?

Now, you will notice one thing - all the things uttered by the woman are questions.

Now I will create another fictitious example, this time the man is deliberately asking questions every time he speaks:
Mother Teresa, what did you mean when you said the meek are humble?
I meant that the meek are humble.
But why?
Because that is the nature of meek people, they tend to be humble.
But Mother Teresa, are you saying that  they tend to be humble, or that they are humble?
I meant that they are humble.
But just now you said that they tend to be humble, am I correct?
Yes, I did say that, you are correct, but I was just saying that they are humble.
But, Mother Teresa, you said that they tend to be humble, is that not what you said? Mother Teresa, do you know the difference?

And so it goes on.
I could create such conversations forever, and the questioner will always win.
The sad part about this is that it is always the woman who is the questioner. And that always presents a threat to the guy. The answerer will always lose, because the questioner can always create a new question arising from the answer given.

And this is why I married a Filipina. I am no longer afraid.
Even the worst question ever thought of by a woman can be dealt with by me now, and it is:

Do you think these clothes make me look fat?
My answer, I swear to God, is either:
Yes, I would pick something else, that tight waistline is making your love-handles show.
or:
No, those clothes work well,  in fact you look really hot.

And if confronted by the famous 'When you said yadayadayada, what did you mean?' my response would be 'Nothing -  so go to sleep, I'm tired, if the question is really important to you, ask it again tomorrow.'

And she would go to sleep, or do something else that doesn't involve answering questions.

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